From Two to Maybe Three: The Conversation We Kept Putting Off

It’s one of those conversations that every couple has eventually. The one about the future. The one that feels both exciting and terrifying all at once. For us, it happened on a lazy Sunday morning, over cold cups of coffee.

The Elephant in the Room

We’d been married for a few years. We had the house (well, we were getting the house). We had the dog. We had what felt like a solid foundation. But the question of “what’s next?” hung in the air like morning fog.

I’d bring it up sometimes, half-joking. He’d nod, change the subject. We’d both pretend it wasn’t a big deal. But it was. It is.

Finally Saying It Out Loud

That Sunday, I just said it. No preface, no nervous laugh.

“Do you think we’re ready?”

And instead of the usual deflection, he actually thought about it. Really thought about it.

What We Realized

Here’s what our conversation revealed:

• We both wanted kids, we were just scared
• We didn’t have to have all the answers right now
• “Ready” isn’t really a thing — you just jump and figure it out
• Our relationship is strong enough to handle this

The Decision

We didn’t make a decision that day. But we made something just as important — a promise to keep talking about it. No pressure, no timeline. Just open, honest conversation.

And honestly? That felt like the most important first step.

— H